Thursday, August 28, 2008

Miss Independent...


Dear God, (and everyone else out there reading me...)

A six foot four inch tall man interested in "talking to me" suggested that I listen to a song called Miss Independent by a young man named NeYo. The lyrics are as follows...


Ooh its something about just something about the way she moved I cant figure it out, there's something about her (about her) Say ooh theres something about, Kinda women that want you but dont need you Hey, i cant figure it out, there's something about her Cuz she walk like a boss, talk like a boss Manicured nalis, just sent the pedicure off She's fly effortlessly Cuz she move like a boss, do what a boss Do, she got me thinking about getting involved thats the kinda girl i need She got her own thing Thats why i love her Miss independent Wont you come and spend a little time She got her own thing Thats why i love her Miss independent Ooh the way you shine Miss independent Hey yeh yeh, yeh yeh, yeh yehhh mmm Ooh there's something about kinda woman that can do it for herself I look at her and it makes me proud, there's something about her there something ooh so sexy about the kinda women that dont even need my help She says she got it, she got it, no doubt, theres something about her Cuz she work like the boss, play like the boss Car and a crib, she about to pay em both off And her bills are paid on time She made for a boss, Soley a boss, Anything less, shes telling em to get lost Thats the girl that on my mind She got her own thing Thats why i love her Miss independent Wont you come and spend a little time She got her own thing Thats why i love her Miss independent ooh the way you shine Miss independent Yeh yehhh Her favourite thing, is to say dont worry i got it And everything she got, best believe she bought it She gon' steal my heart, aint no doubt about it, Girl your everything i need, said your everything i need She got her own thing Thats why i love her Miss independent Wont you come and spend a little time She got her own thing Thats why i love her Miss independent Ooh the way you shine Miss independent Thats why i love her


Well, God, it is a nice song. However, I consider myself being a Christian and being Miss Independent clashing concepts for me, based on my interpretation of scripture. But I guess for the moment I am living in, newly single, newly independent, completed my Masters degree, new career, able to tithe in addition to my offerings, I need to figure out a way to mesh both concepts into the essence of Sis. RJQueen10. Because the reality is at work I am being groomed to be a BOSS, I walk, talk, act and look like a BOSS. But the reality is I rather be Wife, Mama, and resourceful Proverbs 31 Woman of God. In the meantime, "I'mma make it do what it do, baby"! I will glorify and magnify YOU, God!


Sis. RJQueen10

4 comments:

Nihuru said...

Hello,

6'4 huh - sha dang! I hope you have not discounted him. You look pretty tall and being 5'11" myself, I know tall men are hard to come by - or at least in my city; in my state for that matter.

A different someone sings that song to me no less than once a week. It fits me to "T" because of where I have been and my struggles (not always a good thing). It's funny because I have always carried myself the same way but before I became "boss" (I actually prefer Supervisor) I was looked at as "unapproachable". Now that I am in upper level management, everyone wants to approach me. Word of advice - be careful of people with their own agenda at your expense. Good luck as you move toward management.

Sis. RJQueen10 said...

Nihuru,

I know exactly what you mean!!! and you know exactly what I mean, yes, I an 6 feet tall! Most men who are courageous enough to approach me are usually short men. I was so overwelmed by the beauty of this man's height, that I wanted to throw sense and reality to the wind. But... fortunately I still have some sense and lots of healing to do. So presently I am making a commitment to continue my self-LOVE experience solo.

I am starting to like that song more each day. Thanks for your encouragement as I move toward management. I will heed your advice about "people with their own agenda at my expense". It is very true, True, TRUE!

RJQueen10

Sis. RJQueen10 said...

Nihuru,

I know exactly what you mean!!! and you know exactly what I mean, yes, I an 6 feet tall! Most men who are courageous enough to approach me are usually short men. I was so overwelmed by the beauty of this man's height, that I wanted to throw sense and reality to the wind. But... fortunately I still have some sense and lots of healing to do. So presently I am making a commitment to continue my self-LOVE experience solo.

I am starting to like that song more each day. Thanks for your encouragement as I move toward management. I will heed your advice about "people with their own agenda at my expense". It is very true, True, TRUE!

RJQueen10

Nihuru said...

LMAO...short men make it a point to try to "conquer" us. I don't give them the time of day. I truly have to have a man, at the very least, my height.

I don't know if I could pass up a man that is 6'4". That's a tough one. They are hard to come by.

I've been there (need to heal) and I found that the longer I tried to "heal", the more bricks I put up around my heart. Now, I am trying to tear down some of the bricks.

Don't dwell on your past relationship too long. You might miss out on something really great.

Keep your self love ALWAYS...with or without someone in your life. I refuse to settle ever again. We lose our identity when others come into our lives for some reason.

Again, good luck with whatever decision you make.